Those who hurt us deserve to suffer for what they've done. But do we deserve to suffer for it?
Letting go and forgiving the other person is the only way we can end our own suffering.
Drinking poison and expecting others to die is what unforgiveness is like.
How do we practically forgive?
What forgiveness is/is not.
Steps to actual forgiveness.

What Stephen Colbert said about suffering: "What punishments of God are not gifts?"
https://youtu.be/p5bkP8H5NHM